I hope everyone is having a good week so far. I really wanted to write about something that has really been in my heart for a while. It’s important to me to write this because I hear and see everyone doing this to themselves; internal torture. Seeing this really breaks my heart and I really would like to offer kind words to those who need it.
(*When reading this article please substitute this word with something that will make you happy. Success does not necessarily mean the same thing to everyone. It could be running a marathon, it could be getting a big fancy job, it could be starting your own magazine. Whatever your success is, please keep it in mind when reading this.)
I see it everywhere, with everyone. I overhear girls in the hallways, and I see guys talking about it in the library. Comparison and competition. Comparing yourself to others by using instagram, twitter, facebook, blogging, vlogging, and even tumblr. Comparing yourself and talking down to yourself saying that you are not good enough. We beat ourselves up inside and we criticise ourselves. You know, we say a lot of things to ourselves that we would never say to our friends. If you could step back, out of your head, take a step away from the situation…pretend that there are two of you. Would you be able to say all those nasty things to yourself and looking yourself in the eye while you said it? We are all unnecessarily cruel to ourselves. Especially now – jobs are hard to find, college degrees are essential to “success*”, internships and work experience – everyone seems to be doing the same thing.
But no one is doing it better than you are.
Because you are on your path – and they are on theirs. Your paths should not cross and you should not take the same turns and exits as they do. You should follow what feels right, not copying. You have your own map and your own path.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
I believe that a little competition is a good thing, but the only person you should be competing against is the old you and the new you.
“The race is long, and in the end it’s only with yourself”
You should try to compete with yourself to be happier, to think more positively, to read more, to paint something you thought you couldn’t, even to run longer than you thought you could. Compete with yourself to push further and do things that you never thought that you could do. Go above and beyond YOUR expectations. You’ll be proud of yourself and be happy that you did it. Focus on yourself. Do not try to compete against someone who has a completely different life than you, with different resources and different experiences. Stop competing against someone who does not matter. “Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident.” Be proud.”You are what you are. You are yourself (obviously). You make the choices and you have the ideas. You are doing well – because you are the only you. So why make yourself a copy? Why spend time comparing to people who don’t matter.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are doing something no one else has ever done, because there’s no one else that is like you. You are one of a kind. In the future, all the time you will have wasted worrying and comparing will be time that you wish you had back. If you want to waste time doing something UNIMPORTANT – just play foosball. So stop comparing. Stop competing. Start bettering yourself. Be so successful* and so comfortable that you don’t even notice people watching you rise above them.
I’m very proud of you 🙂
Once again I will end with my favorite quote of all time (I’ve also used this on a blog post)
Do not compare your chapter 2 to someone else’s chapter 20
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